We need to be intentional about holding on to Self. It is so easy to have an emotional hijacking where someone, intent on stealing your joy, can walk into your office, your classroom, your work space, your life–and tries to just walk off with all of your energy. When we work hard to be positive, to see the glass as half full always, we have to protect our hearts–build a hedge around it to keep the bad stuff at bay.
I am surprised sometimes when I talk to someone and hear the victim’s voice: “I can’t believe she said that to me.” “I can’t control what happens to me.” I don’t know what to do, how to respond.”
I offer this piece of advice.
- First, take three deep breaths.
- Count your blessings one by one more than twice.
- Look inside to find your strength.
- Lean on a power much greater than yourself.
- Realize that you are unique and wonderfully made.
- Smile so big on the inside until your body feels empowered.
- Park your emotional baggage in the corner.
- Frame your words carefully and with grace.
- Speak from your heart and not from your emotions.
- Seek clarity: “Are you understanding what I am saying?”
- Commend yourself for standing up for yourself.
It’s important to hold on to your Self. It connects you to your Source.